I know that a lot of people are going to roll their eyes this but….I’ve met Marc and he’s a pretty nice guy. We even talked about her for a bit and he had nothing but good things to say. I’m more than sure the “at least you’re nice to look at” comment was a joke. If she really believed that he meant that, why would she stay with him?
I’ve met him as well.
Actually, I’m pretty sure they weren’t dating when I met him (he was on one of the first stops for the TDC road tour), but not the point.
The point is that he was lovely when I met him as well. But that doesn’t negate the possibility that he might be an abuser.
Now, we don’t have any proof beyond that tweet, and you’re right, it could have been a joke. It’s up to Emilie to decide how to interpret it, and she seems to not be upset.
However, it’s understandable that some fans are uncomfortable with it, and unfortunately, abusers often appear to be nice, normal people. So just because she doesn’t appear upset with it doesn’t mean he wasn’t saying it to be an asshole. We just don’t know because we have no context.
(Note: I’m not trying to claim that Marc is an abuser, because he is a very lovely person who doesn’t seem like the type, but we have nothing to tell us one way or another, and we can’t jump to conclusions just because he doesn’t seem abusive)
I’m calling bullshit right now on ANYONE who even suggests that Marc is “an abuser” based on less than 140 characters on Twitter. Jesus Christ. The fact that ANY EA fans actually jumped to that conclusion is just…fucking ridiculous. I won’t even concede any “it’s understandable that some fans are uncomfortable with it”. No. It’s not. It’s completely batshit. Shame on anyone for jumping to such a conclusion based on such little evidence (which isn’t even evidence. fucking hell, just read their tweets back and forth- they are always joking back and forth. what the hell would even possess anyone to think “OMG LOOK AT THAT HE’S SO ABUSIVE AND SHALLOW AND OMG HOW DARE HE HE’S TERRIBLE!”)
I think that anyone jumping to think that tweet is evidence of some kind of abuse or otherwise asshole-ness on Marc’s part is way out of line, and that’s probably a sign that they have some shit in their personal lives they need to address. And before someone tries to say otherwise, having a history with an abusive partner—if that’s the case with some of these people—is not an excuse for jumping to think it of him just because of that damned tweet.
Like, seriously. Jesus fucking Christ this fandom is a disgrace sometimes.
Wow, could you be anymore of a condescending asshole?
Jesus, it’s like you don’t understand the concept of people being uncomfortable with someone saying things like “you’re crazy, but you’re hot, and that’s important”.
Yes, it may have been a joke, but it’s still something that people have the right to be uncomfortable with and to express that discomfort.
(And you know, not all of us obsessively follow her Twitter feed, so throwing that “but context” bullshit out was completely uncalled for.)
Why, yes! I could be more of a condescending asshole! In fact, let me demonstrate, because I can’t say as I’m bothered if stupid people think I’m an asshole, and stupid people deserve to be condescended to.
I understand the ‘concept’ of people being uncomfortable with it. But I also think those people are stupid to take less than 140 characters and run with it like this, when even the smallest bit of common sense would lead one to realize that it’s pretty certainly a harmless joke. A harmless joke between a boyfriend and girlfriend who tend to make such jokes with each other on the same medium (Oh, shit! There’s that pesky ‘context’ thing again!). There is such a thing as overreaction, and anyone getting bugged out by that tweet is overreacting. To an absurd degree.
I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve visited EA’s twitter feed in the last three months, yet even I have a basic understanding of these two’s usual dynamics there. So you can take that ‘obsessively follow her twitter feed’ nonsense and stick it where the sun don’t shine. It doesn’t take someone checking her twitter feed daily for updates to figure it out. And if people don’t ever look at her twitter, or do and yet have somehow missed EA and Marc’s tweets (except this one, of course), that doesn’t give them license to take that one tweet and get all pissy about it. Ignorance of context is no excuse. An example:
It is true a Child, just dropt from it’s Dam may be supported by her Milk, for a Solar year with little other Nourishment, at most not above the Value of two Shillings, which the Mother may certainly get, or the Value in Scraps, by her lawful Occupation of begging, and it is exactly at one year Old that I propose to provide for them, in such a manner, as, instead of being a Charge upon their Parents, or the Parish, or wanting Food and Raiment for the rest of their Lives, they shall, on the Contrary, contribute to the Feeding and partly to the Cloathing of many Thousands.
Say you see that quote. No context. It’s advocating for eating babies. A lot of people would (and have, and do) object to that idea. So let’s imagine a bunch of idiots jumping to call the author a cannibal, evil, disgusting, vicious, a psychopath, etc.
That quote is from Jonathan Swift’s “A Modest Proposal”. It’s pure satire, and of course he’s not advocating for actually eating infants. Anyone who jumped to condemn him for his “awful” views is an idiot. It doesn’t matter that they don’t know the context; it’s not the context’s responsibility to run after overzealous fools who want to rush to conclusions and beat them over the head with common sense. The burden is on people to use their minds and figure shit out for themselves. I know it’s easy to rush to stupid conclusions, and some people have some serious difficulties with curbing their instinct to shriek their outrage long enough to stop and think first, but that is their issue.
Jumping from a tweeted joke between a couple in a romantic relationship to “omg he’s probably a shallow, abusive asshole!” is not rational. It is not understandable. It is stupid. End of story.
Was that condescending enough? I wouldn’t want to disappoint, now that I’ve established myself. Do let me know if I need to step it up.